Mother's Day

OK, so this morning, on the way to work, the radio station played a little blurb from Everybody Loves Raymond where Patricia Wheaton was saying, "Father's Day is great, because it's being run by the Mother's!"

I laughed at that, and Dessa must have been listening because she immediately asked why that was funny. I explained and she had the nerve to ask me if I would help her with Father's Day for her dad.

?!?!?!?!?!?!?!?

Granted, my children are still young, and my wonderful Annee did take me out to Sizzler on Thursday for Mother's Day, and both Tyler and Dessa made things at school for me, which are always precious. However...NOT ONE OF MY CHILDREN WISHED ME A HAPPY MOTHER'S DAY YESTERDAY!!!

Maybe it is too much to ask for. Fine. No problem. But now, Dessa wants me to make her dad's Father's Day special. This hurt. A lot. I kind of lost it with her and started going on about how he didn't help them with Mother's Day, and how in fact he never helps me with ANYTHING! She defended him by saying he had paid the money he owes me. Oh, if she only knew. I couldn't help but say that he still owes me over $5,000, so he still has a long way to go on that one.

She didn't say anything after that, but I am still seething and aching over it. I know I shouldn't be. She loves her dad, and she should think about him. I just get so frustrated when I hear how the kids want to do stuff for their dad when he doesn't do a darn thing for them. I told Dessa she is more than welcome to do what she wants to or to make something for her dad, but that I can not help her.

Am I wrong in this? Even now, I am really trying hard not to cry. It is very hard to focus on work at the moment because it hurts so bad. I hate that I feel this way! I am the one getting all the benefits of parenting these kids, and I know how lucky I am. It just really hurts that they don't see how much little comments like that hurt me. I just need to grow up and get over it I guess.